So recently I’ve figured out that I have some really great friends. Being a SAHM I’ll say for all of us that we need friends. Real ones. Whether you are a 21 year old new mom or a 33 year old mom with 4 kids. Sometimes you need people to talk to. To vent to. To laugh with and cry with. And yes, most of us have husbands/boyfriends or the like but let’s face it. They are not interested in our Lady drama. At. All.
I find myself complaining a lot. I call my friends and complain. I call my mom and complain and I call my mother in law and complain. Complain about dishes and laundry. Not having time or about some sort of problem I’m having with one of my other friends. Which happens a lot. I am the kind of person who has to talk things through. I need time to calm down before I talk to someone who has wronged me. Think it through.. out loud.
Through my life I’ve had a lot of friends come and go. Some of whom weren’t my friends to begin with. And I found out the hard way.
My definition of a friend is someone you can be honest with. Someone you can be real with. Who won’t share your secrets and you won’t share theirs. Someone who has your back, even when your wrong but won’t be afraid to tell you that you are either. I have 3 friends like this. 3. In 33 years. There are several moms I hang out with. Invite over to chat and play cards with. Have a drink with. But when my back is turned..
I think it’s important that every mom, not just SAHM ‘S, have friends. Our job is hard. We literally have little lives in our hands. The tiny humans who can’t fend for themselves. They need us 24/7. We cook, clean, chauffeur, sign papers, help with homework, hell we teach them to wipe their own ass. It’s important that we have someone to cut up with. To be ourselves around. We need someone we can have adult conversations with.
But we also need friends we can depend on. Someone who will take on our venting and won’t turn around and make it a drama filled fun fest for everyone in town. Who will understand that what we say while we are annoyed, are just ramblings of a crazed, exhausted and overwhelmed person. Not to be confused as “running our mouths”. And I’m confused but if your a mom then you do realize that at one point or another you go through the same things right?
So I guess where I was going with that is be kinder. Keep things to yourself. And help a mom in need. Sometimes we just need to yell at someone…Sometimes we need a stiff drink and an 8 hour nap. Sometimes we just need a friend!
And if your alone and you don’t have a friend, I’m here. Just figuring out things as I go. We can do it together!
Hugs! – kuddos and kiddos
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